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Creating Non-Negotiables in Habits
On today’s episode we are going to hope into Creating Non-Negotiables within our Habits we are going to define non-negotiables and how to decide what they are in our life.
Brief Summary of objectives:
· Talk about what a non-negotiable is and be able to define them.
· Be able to describe your non-negotiables to yourself and to others.
· Be able to describe and understand how your non-negotiables are going to help fulfill your overall life.
Call to action: I challenge you to go along with me look at the non-negotiables within your life and make sure they align with the goals you have for your upcoming future.
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Brief Summary of objectives:
- Talk about what a non-negotiable is and be able to define them.
- Be able to describe your non-negotiables to yourself and to others.
- Be able to describe and understand how your non-negotiables are going to help fulfill your overall life.
Topic 1: What is a non-negotiable?
Put simply a non-negotiable is something that you are not willing to negotiate on. They either follow values and principles of aspects that you will and won’t accept from others and from yourself.
Let’s start by establishing that a non-negotiable is a value that you use as a guide for making the complicated decisions throughout your life. These are concrete actions that exemplify your values.
Structuring the non-negotiables on your values-based approach helps to structure your life and helps to translate these into your day-to-day routines. This creates spaces grounded in your ideals.
Typically, these fall under big-time deal breakers because these are promises you keep to yourself, family, friends, and co-workers, or within the relationships and commitments throughout your life.
Non-negotiables often are the ones that get you through hard times when you are making a difficult decision. They are typically determined before the difficult decision comes up, though sometimes they may come from a difficult decision.
Do remember in setting a non-negotiable that it might be for a period of time! Because we have times in our life that we must revisit and review the important aspects of the non-negotiables in our life. Besides life just generally has us change some of our non-negotiables because of living— getting married, having children, a loved one passing away, graduating college, near-death experiences, medical diagnosis, children leaving home, or retirement can all be life changes that have us revisiting our non-negotiables.
Topic 2: How to decide what is a non-negotiable?
The first step is to identify some of your own personal truths. This might be that you already know what your core values are instantly, however there are some of us that haven’t taken time to dedicate the time to naming what they are. (This might be that you hit a pause and identify some of your personal truths or think about them as you continue this podcast episode with me.)
Do this by thinking about your own life: who are the people you admire? Why do you admire them? When are you presented with difficult choice? Why do you end up making the decision that you do? Is there something missing from your schedule that you just cannot seem to fit in? And remember you might have to take inventory of your life during each stage or transition to see how your non-negotiables might need to shift around.
Sharing the values with your family members. This could be through a family meeting and being able to name the values that are important to you and your family and bring the non-negotiables into a shared space. However, in your singleness create the values and non-negotiables within your spaces, this way you are really getting to know you before you are sharing this space with anyone else.
Create a list of values and activities and realize this is important because you will use this list to begin to create your non-negotiable list. These are things like school, work, extracurricular, family time, technology and such to help you translate these into actions or goals. This one might take you digging a little bit deeper and thinking in a practical way that brings values into your life. In my life jiu jitsu is non-negotiable. I shared with my husband that in our move being within 10 – 30 minutes of the gym was very important to me, and I couldn’t go a few months without training because it doesn’t work for my mental health. This is just one example, but this is one that followed from my singlehood into my marriage. The beauty in this one and how my husband and I met is that he understands why this one is important to me.
Write them down. What are your top five values and how do they relate to non-negotiables! Do it now – you got this. Now plan your families Calendar and create your routines and habits around your non-negotiables.
Here are some examples: not working on the weekends to have family time, not drinking and driving, exercise is on the schedule each day, getting up early each day, bedtime and waking routine, deciding when screen time ends, eating a healthy lifestyle, keeping yourself hydrated, talking to parents/kids/friends/siblings regularly, never omitting truths, and you can keep on going. I am sure you have some of these non-negotiable items within your life.
Remember as you are establishing or refreshing your non-negotiables to:
- Get Clear by writing them down and ensuring that it is important in your life. Remember this list is YOURS and is going to be different from everyone else and you shouldn’t feel the need to apologize about your list. But you have to be ready to own each item and stand up for them as they are truly defining what matters most to you.
- Keep them current: remember as life changes and transitions you are going to need to review your items year to year. When your life changes such as getting married (which has been a big one for me in the last two years) and career changes then the list must be updated.
- Get Aligned with what your current values and goals: they change and by checking in on key points and keeping check on your actions you know if you are aligned. If a goal changes, then you must readjust your priorities or else you are going to be working against yourself.
- Communicate it! Sometimes this is where we fall short throughout our life is that we lack in communication to those people in our life who matter. It is one thing for you to decide on your non-negotiables, but it is definitely another one that actually takes outward action. Don’t live in a bubble because that is no fun, but do let people who are important to you and supporting you to help you to stay on track. This is helpful when you are getting clear on what matters most to you and setting those non-negotiables around this.
Topic 3: How a non-negotiable helps you
Non-negotiables provide items in our life that are locked into place and have a structure that can provide us with some comfort on not straying too far from the valuable points in our life.
It is seeing that your non-negotiable matters over anything else. You do not change because an opportunity or situation changes you.
This is learning the art of setting rules and it will change everything for you!
Yourself non-negotiables that help you are setting them and sticking to your own boundaries, such as I do not check my emails or work communications outside of work hours, calling people I want to talk to, time blocking my exercise time, always starting the day off with breakfast, limiting my technology, and keeping my closet decluttered by the one thing in one thing out rule.
Recap: we can summarize all our non-negotiables into three simple categories of give, move, and learn. This is being generous in your endeavors and anchoring your giving within your non-negotiables to increase your well-being and be the smile for someone else. Move through physical activities daily. And simply learn because this is one of our greatest gifts to be able to learn and practice daily.
Call to action: I challenge you to go along with me look at the non-negotiables within your life and make sure they align with the goals you have for your upcoming future.
