Ways to Not Let Yourself Vanish

Often, we encounter individuals who seem to disappear when they get a new job, enter a new relationship, or experience any major life change. We are going to talk about the guide that was developed to help you ensure that you never lose your sense of self in such situations. The guide was developed with over 200 responses to this question. 

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Often, we encounter individuals who seem to disappear when they get a new job, enter a new relationship, or experience any major life change. We are going to talk about the guide that was developed to help you ensure that you never lose your sense of self in such situations. The guide was developed with over 200 responses to this question.

Topic 1: Reflecting on Self 

• Ask yourself: How would I feel if my "self" were to vanish? It's a daunting question but contemplating it can lead to insightful discoveries about who you truly are. The key is to focus on what makes you unique.
• Creating an open communication channel with yourself is essential. You can achieve this by being honest with your emotions and not retreating inward. Ask yourself: Can I tell myself the truth? Is there a new way to communicate? Can I have tough conversations with myself and those in my life?
• You can get to this point through self-reflection. Research shows that once you have self-reflection it is where you could even grow other soft skills. Though through the habit of reflecting on your day without a bias or regret this helps you to look at the day truthful and be able to move forward with the encouragement of what’s next. When we take a look at reflecting on our days we help to enhance our ability to understand ourselves and motivations.
• Reflection questions: Am I achieving the goals that I’ve set for myself? Am I taking care of myself physically? Am I waking up in the morning ready to take on the day? Why do I matter? What small act of kindness was I once shown that I will never forget? My favorite way to spend the day is? Make a list of 30 things that make you smile.  
•  Remember, focusing on you means taking the time to cater to your mental, physical, and emotional needs. You can do this by creating routines that honor your uniqueness. 
• Ask yourself: Am I keeping up with my hobbies? Have I continued to learn? Did I set a self-care date for this month? Am I doing things in life that bring me joy? Have I given myself grace? How am I creating alone time?
• Build yourself reflection through keeping a journal, set an hour aside to review your notes, don’t just re-read but give yourself real reflection.

Topic 2: Financial Independence and Boundaries 

• Financial independence is another crucial aspect of maintaining a strong sense of self. 
•  Creating a budget plan that allows you financial freedom is empowering. It allows you to focus on hobbies, relationships, and personal growth without constant worry about finances. 
• Ask yourself: Do I have a spending plan? How do I have income? Do I have debt piling up? How do I feel about my financial decisions? How do I keep up with my money flow? Do I have money in a savings account?

• Setting boundaries early on helps maintain healthy relationships. Reflect on your boundaries to make sure they are healthy for you. 
• Boundaries are set in place to keep us safe. These can look like sticking to your financial plan, limiting yourself on tv, screen time limits on your day, when are you going to stop working, folding laundry as it comes out of the dryer, and so on these are ideas you create for yourself to help with needs and priorities. 
• What can make it challenging is your childhood might not have had healthy limits or boundaries, rules were not set, you are feeling deprived or controlled by a boundary.
  • First identify different areas in your life that need a boundary. 
  • Second create boundaries that reflect your goals and values. 
  • Third do not overwhelm yourself with setting boundaries
  • Fourth be compassionate and accountable with yourself in kindness
  •  Fifth make them as incremental changes. 
• Ask yourself: Am I okay with my boundaries? How can I effectively communicate my personal boundaries to others? Might I need to establish stronger boundaries? How am I distinguishing between healthy compromise and compromising my own boundaries?

Topic 3: Enjoying Solitude and Respect 

• Learning to enjoy your own company helps invest in yourself. Small actions like getting coffee, putting your phone away to journal or read a book, and picking up a hobby you love can help build this healthy aspect of you. 
• Ask yourself: What are some ways I genuinely enjoy spending time with myself? How do I create self-discovery and growth? How do I overcome feelings of loneliness and discomfort? How can I strike a balance between enjoying solitude and maintaining meaningful social connections?

• Respect for yourself and those around you is essential. Learning to stand your ground and knowing your worth are key elements of respect. 

• Ask yourself: Are you remaining respectful? Was I wrong? What are your personal goals for continuously fostering a culture of respect in your life? How do you handle situations where you feel disrespected, or someone crosses your boundaries?
• As you journey through self-discovery and continue to build a strong relationship with yourself, remember to constantly reflect on your actions, decisions, and feelings. Set a date with yourself to address these issues. After all, the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.

Call to action: Create a list of things that make you smile, start a journal and begin to number them. Keep this journal of what brings your joy, what makes your smile, what was positive in your day and number them let it just be a five minute daily reflects. Ready. Set. Go.